A muslim wife
“A women is married for four reasons: for her wealth, for her fame, for her beauty and for her (adherence to)
religion. So marry one for her religion and you will win” [Bukbari & Muslim] and, “Four are causes of happiness,: A
good wife, a big house, a good neighbor and a good way of transportation” [Al-Hakim].
The above Hadiths emphasize the importance of marrying a good Muslim woman. This is why Muslim men should
always seek such women to be happy in this life. Following are some of the characteristics of a good wife :
1. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands) and guard in the
husband’s absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their honor, husband’s property, etc). [4:34]. Ibn
Katheer said, “Ibn Abbas said, ‘The righteous women are obedient to their husbands (Qanitaat). Also ibn Katheer
said, “Imam Suddi said, ‘They (good wives) protect their husbands’ honor and money in their absence.”‘
2. Ibn Hibban narrated that the Prophet PBUH said, what translated means, “If a woman prayed the five prayers,
fasted in Ramadhan, protected her honor and obeyed her husband; then she will be told (on the Day of Judgment):
enter Paradise from any of its (eight) doors.
3. The Prophet PBUH said, what translated means, “Your women who will enter Paradise are those nice to their
husbands, who bear children, and those who keep checking the needs of their husbands. If her husband gets angry
with her, she would hold his hand and say : “By Allah, I will not sleep until you forgive me” [as-Silsilah as-Sahiha]
4. -an-Nasa’i narrated that the Prophet PBUH was asked, “Who are the best of women?” HE said, “The one who
pleases him (her husband) if he looks at her, obeys him if he orders (her) and does not subject her honor or
money to what he dislikes.”
From the above Hadiths, we can sum up the characteristics of a good wife:
1–She is a good Muslim, obedient to Allah and His Messenger PBUH .
2–She performs the five regular prayers and fasts Ramadhan.
3–She is obedient to her husband, unless he orders her to do evil.
4–She protects her husband’s money and honor in his absence.
5–She is always nice to her husband, checking on his needs.
6–She always tries to please and calm him if he is angry or upset.
7–She bears his children and does not ask him for divorce for no reason.
8–She tries to always look and smell nice for her spouse.
Advice for Women
Following is an advice to every Muslim woman that contains matters to avoid in order to have a good marriage.
1 — Avoid angering your husband. The Prophet PBUH mentioned that among the three that Allah does not accept
their prayer are, “A wife who goes to sleep while her husband is angry with her.” [At-Tirmithi].
2 — Avoid harming your husband in any way, “If a woman harms (in any way) her husband, then his wife in
Paradise tells her: ‘Do not harm him, may Allah fight you, he is only staying temporarily with you. Soon he will
come to us. ‘ [Ahmad & At-Tirmithi].
3 — Avoid being unappreciative or unthankful to your husband, “Allah does not look to the woman who does not
appreciate her husband while she cannot stand his departing her.” [An-Nasaii].
4 – Do not ask your husband for divorce for no reason. The Prophet PBUH warned women who ask for divorce for
no sound reason in his Hadith, “Any woman who asks her husband for divorce for no reason will not smell the
fragrance of Paradise. [Sahih Al-Jamii].
5 — Do not obey your husband if he asks you to do prohibited matters, “Do not disobey the Creator to obey any
human.” [Ahmad & Al-Hakim].
6 — Avoid voluntary fasting without your husband’s permission, unless he is absent, “A woman does (must) not
fast while her husband is present without his permission, except in Ramadhan.” [Al-Bukhari & Muslim]. This
Hadith emphasizes the importance of the wife satisfying her husbands sexual needs. If the husband agrees, th
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